The pleasure of presenting

Every year one can watch the same occasion the same time.
When it's the Season many people are panicking all about getting and buying presents. They are storming the malls with desperate faces, pushing and shoving in the shops surrounded by fellows in misery.

Many people find that so annoying so that they just present money - very popular around the parents of children who are older than 25.
Some people just don't know the persons well enough, they want to endow and either they do it like the older parents or they ask the person what he wants and that is what he will get.
So more and more people are coming to an understanding with their beloveds not to buy any presents, since there is no sense in exchanging the same amount of money or presenting something that the other one would have bought anyway and cost a similar amount of money as the present one gets from the other one.

In my opinion those people haven't caught the meaning of presenting.

Don't get me wrong - there's nothing wrong with presenting a gift which the other one has wished particularly. But if we are honest when someone asks us "What we desire" we can't remember one single wish at that moment (even if a lot of wishes have come to our mind during the past year) or we just don't know what to wish and so we answer something we need or we would've bought anyway.

And that is what presenting not should be like: Getting and giving gifts like money, something one would have had anyway or even nothing.

The mistake is already in the approach. Making a gift is not a matter of one day. It's a matter of a lot of days.
To find the perfect gift there's the need for listening carefully to the other person - listening to the things which are said and those which are not. Watching the other person and recording the topics which make the person's eyes light up. And by this means one gathers enough informations to be able to think about a present the other one will really like.

The best presents are those of which you didn't know that you had wanted them.

For example if someone goes swimming  three times a week and is raving about the beaches in Italy moreover a lot of his accessoires and clothes are purple the right present might be a valuable and extravagant purple bikini, if you get my meaning.

You just need to watch and listen carefully and think a little bit on your own and I promise you will find the perfect present.
Of course this is not possible with every person, but it should be with those you really like and who are really important to you .